How do I get something if I give it away?
We hear a lot about karma and the law of attraction, especially within the last few years, with the personal development/self-improvement boom, but what is it?
And how can it be applied in our lives and more specifically our relationships?
Do you really reap what you sow when it comes to things like your finances, your health, and your relationships?
No matter how you cut it, the answer is self-evidently, yes.
You absolutely get back what you put into any area of your life.
Of course there are exceptions, we do not live in a world controlled by the all powerful YOU and there are times when we get our legs swept out from under us…but when you find yourself face down on the ground what is the next move?
Do we put our hands in the air and throw in the towel? Or do we get back up, look for the flaw in our approach, adjust accordingly, and keep on moving? My vote is for the latter. It’s not easy and I think that's the point, there is no growth in the comfort zone.
Here is one example of what I am talking about, how we get back what we give out:
My favorite definition, of what it is to love, to love yourself and to love others, came from the Road Less Traveled by M. Scott Peck, and he defines love as "the will to extend one's self for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth."
Now think about that for a minute.
Does it show more love to take someone out for a nice dinner and shower them in gifts, or, to take the time to find out what your loved one's ambitions and desires are, and lay out that first step to fuller self discovery?
I'm not bad mouthing treating your loved one to a little luxury but what is more likely to strengthen the relationship?
And this can be as simple as signing them up for guitar lessons or a cooking class. All it takes is finding out where they want to be, and helping them start down that path with a little love, help, and encouragement.
I believe that if you inject a little love into your day to day routine, it will come back to you in the form of growth, and with growth comes strength, stronger spirituality, stronger finances, and a stronger love.
Doing these small, loving, thoughtful, things will help foster a stronger relationship.
If you want health, you live a healthy lifestyle, if you want friends, you be a friend, and if you’re seeking love, you need look no further than inside yourself.
The message is simple, if you consistently put anything from love to hate out into the world, it’s going to come busting down your door, so be conscious of what you're putting out there.
Give what you want to get.